It’s not gossip if it is true right?! I have to admit that I catch myself falling into this trap too often. It may not meet the legal definition of gossiping when we are talking about someone’s faults and failures but as children of Christ we have a much higher standard to live up to than “no gossiping”.
Ephesians 4:29 says, Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
The question is do we care enough about our relationship with Christ to change our old sinful habits? Personally I do enough to hinder my effectiveness as His witness without speaking ill of others. For every negative comment I could make about someone else I could make five more about myself. I pray that God will give me the strength to guard the words that come out of my mouth.
Even if you and I are successful at taking control over our words there will always be some sort of gossip, unhelpful, or just plain hurtful “truth” spoken about us. This is easy to overlook at times but other times it is a very painful experience. Even people with the best intentions can break a our hearts when they are careless with their words.
When we are hurt by the our brothers and sisters in Christ, our family, friends, coworkers, or even strangers we need to turn to the only real source of truth. The truth is as children of God we have nothing to fear. Our righteousness is found in the person of Jesus Christ and not in ourselves. No matter how the enemy chooses to attack we are protected on every side and no weapon formed against us shall prosper. Even in death we are victorious. If God be for us who can be against us?!
No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper; and every tongue that shall rise against thee in judgment thou shalt condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, and their righteousness is of me, saith the LORD.
(All scripture references are from the King James Version)